The Power of a Self-Care Plan

 
As you may know, it was about 20 years ago that I made the decision to quit my teaching job and become a stay-at-home mom. I was living down in Georgia, my husband was in the Army, and our oldest was 6 months old.
 
I remember like it was yesterday the dreaded feeling when I’d go off to work each day and leave my baby with the lady who lived next door to a friend. I was young and didn’t know anyone and not being around family, I was limited with childcare.
 
I was lucky in that the woman who watched Ariella lived across the street from my school, so I would go over at lunch and commute time from separating from her wasn’t much at all.
 
But still, it was rough for both Ariella and myself. So at the end of the school year, my husband and I decided that it would be best if I didn’t go back to the classroom the following year. Plus, he was heading overseas for a deployment and so the idea of going up north to stay with my parents...
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Taking Care of Your Finances is Taking Care of You!

 
On my list of things to do this week is to get back to budgeting.I was doing really well with it at the beginning of 2020 but then over the summer, I started slacking and at this point, it’s gone by the wayside!
 
But that doesn’t mean I can’t recommit to what I started doing months ago. Did you know that one of the ways that you show yourself love is by engaging in financial self-care?
 
What does that mean anyways? For me, knowing that I’m in control of my money, knowing what’s going in and out of our account and making sure that I am spending it wisely helps me feel less stressed.
 
I listen to Dave Ramsey podcasts (& I’ve read his books) and we’re almost through Baby Step 2. Are you familiar with DR? I know that the system works and so I must persevere and budgeting is part of the solution, that’s for sure.
 
Taking care of our finances is self-care. Aside from lowering my stress, the act of...
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Multitasking isn't All It's Cracked Up to Be

 
When it comes to multi-tasking, us moms can pretty much write the book, right?! 
 
I am a pro when it comes to doing 50 things at once. I can help my kids with their schoolwork, read a book, answer phone calls, prep tomorrow morning’s coffee, and find a band-aid out of the cabinet all while cooking Monday night dinner .
 
And I’m pretty confident that most of us moms here in this group can do the same. I used to think this was the ticket to getting so much accomplished but I realized that some things just can’t be done in this way. And shouldn't be!
 
It took a lot to convince me that doing things this way and trying to do so many things at once added a lot more stress to my life and that it just wasn’t as effective as it seemed.
 
Sure, I got stuff done, but things weren’t getting done as well as I wanted or needed them to get done. Plus I’ve read a lot of research that negates the benefits of multi-tasking.
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Favorite Time-Saving Hacks Revealed

 
Wouldn’t it be absolutely amazing to have 25 hours in our day? What would you do with that extra hour? Sleep? Clean your house? Play with your kids? Learn a new language? Read a book? Oh my, the possibilities are endless!
 
Only in a dream-world, right? It seems that there’s never enough hours in a day to get everything done that we want to get done.
 
Truth is, we will never find extra time in our day. It’s just how the whole world spins. 24 hours is 24 hours. There’s no time to be found anywhere.
 
But what if I tell you, you can make time?
 
Yep--you’d think I was crazy, right? But this is exactly what I’ve been doing and really, it’s what you’ve been doing too. Your whole life.
 
You decide how you want to use your time and you make it what it is. You want to sleep longer, you set your alarm later and you make time for sleep.
 
You want to mop the kitchen floor? You make time...
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Assessing and Aligning Your Priorities

 
What do you value? When I ask you this question, what I mean is what do you find important?
 
I think I can guess that most of you here reading this post would say hands down, your family, am I right?
 
As moms, we hold our family near and dear to our hearts and want to do anything and everything we can to keep them intact and growing strong.
 
But what else? Your marriage? Your faith? Education? Health? Your appearance?
 
No matter what you deem as important, why is it that we end up spending much of our time doing things that don’t align with these things?
 
We know in our hearts what is important to us yet we struggle to pull ourselves away from Facebook or Netflix, running ragged around the town doing errands, attending events that we’d rather not, or spending hours working on a project that we volunteered for but is taking way longer than we anticipated.
 
These are not only time-suckers but also joy-suckers as they leave us...
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How to Overcome Mom-Brain When You're Pulled in Different Directions

 
8:11 am Kid 1: Hey mom, do you know where my sneakers are?
 
8:12 Kid 2: Mom, my laptop is about to die, can you get me the cord?
 
8:12 Kid 1: The dog pooped in the hallway again mom.
 
8:13 Kid 3: Ew, mom, I accidentally stepped in the dog poop!
 
8:14 Mmmmmoooommmm, my laptop just died. I need your help.
 
8:15 Kid 3 is spotted walking through the living room, not-so-mysterious tracks behind him.
 
8:15 Phone ringing...Hey hon, would you mind reviewing that report I emailed you last night? I need it by 8:30!
 
8:16 Kid 1: Look, mom, I found my sneakers but they got wet in the rain last night
 
8:16 The tears start flowing.
 
True Story. And unfortunately, this is not a rare event because some variation of the above happens more than I’d like to admit.
 
I am a cryer, let’s just get that out on the table. I’ve cried my fair share of tears over the year and really, sometimes it feels good to release the...
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Self-Care is Personal

 
I was never athletic growing up. Well, I was on a bowling team in grade school. We actually won a trophy for having the highest handicap! And I was on the volleyball team but just remember standing with six girls, not moving much out of the place my coach told me to stand.
 
I did cheer-leading in high school only because it counted for a sport and it was either do a sport or gym class. When cheer-leading no longer fit my style, I did track—shot-put, not running! I just wasn’t much of an athlete!
 
Neither was I into meditation or yoga or any of the mindfulness activities that are advocated to find calmness or peace of mind. I just couldn’t see the value.
 
So, when I became a mom, I didn’t really know how to take care of myself. I mean, I read that exercise was important and lots of moms were getting into yoga, but what on earth can I do for self-care?
 
Even if I had the time to devote to myself, what would I do? I was 10 years into...
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Self-Care is Anything But Selfish!

 
How many of you moms reading this blog post right now would leap in front of a speeding train if it meant that your child would be saved?
 
If it came between you and your child eating, how many of you would go without?
 
How about staying up all night to comfort your child when they are sick?
 
I’d put money on the bet that most of the women in this group would easily do all of the above. Am I right?
 
That’s because WE CARE!
 
We absolutely, hands down love our children and would do anything for them because we love them! It’s how love works, really!
 
We are willing to give our children all we have in order to make them feel our love.
But we are only one person and we only have so much time, energy, and patience. Our bucket can only hold so much.
 
I’ve heard women say that when you’re a mom, having “me-time” is selfish and I cringe. Why?
 
Well, one, I used to think this exact thought and...
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Overcome the Excuses to Self-Care

 

Self-care is something that I know many of us moms struggle with.

It’s hard to hang up our cape and not be the hero that we so want everyone to believe we are.

We’ve even convinced ourselves that the world will fall apart if we aren’t there.
 
If we don’t have dinner on the table.

If the floor isn’t mopped.

If we don’t get that last load of laundry out of the dryer.

As if all of these things we should be doing won’t continue to be on our to-do list tomorrow!
 
What would happen if you said, “ya know…I’m going to just head out and go for a walk. These dishes can wait until tomorrow” or
 
“Kids, mom will be back” (as long as they are legally able to be alone…you may have some cleaning to do upon your return) or
 
“Hon, I’ll be outside for a few minutes, chatting to an old friend. Hold down the fort, will you?”
 
As moms, we have accepted our own...
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Can't find time in your busy life for self-care?

 

Lots has been happening behind the scenes here. School started last week. For those of you new to my blog, let me catch you up on my family.

Our oldest is out of the house, second daughter is 16 but completed a program that allowed her to graduate. She’s enrolled in college classes. Twins are 14 (as of this past Friday), our 10 year old, and our youngest, who’s 6.
 
The youngest four are doing school remotely this year, in a new district since we are in transition of moving to a town 100 miles away.
 
Anyways, school started this past week. We are one week into it and I haven’t killed anyone yet!
 
Came close, but I came to my senses before any major damage was done.
Seriously, talk about stress! On top of that, I am helping my father-in-law develop and run an on-line course for his business (the one my husband works in too) and of course I’m continuing to see clients and grow my business.
 
Cra-cra! But through it all, I am fighting to...
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